How to Eat…Intuitively.

There’s a bit of a blizzard on the east coast this weekend, in case you haven’t heard. That means bundling up with lots of books, coffee, and comfort food, as going outside is basically useless. So, I thought I would type up a post on intuitive eating because eating is everyone’s fave way to spend a snow day.

Intuitive eating means truly listening to your body’s cues for hunger and fullness. You should eat when you feel hungry, and put down the fork when you feel satisfied. Sounds easy enough right? Well, it is, but the main challenge lies in eating mindfully. Mindful eating requires you to eat without distraction. To enjoy the flavors, textures, and experience of your meal. To not have Netflix on in the background, or be scrolling through your Instagram feed, or  eat while working at your desk. To eat slowly so your body can process the rate at which your stomach fills. To understand the difference between hunger and thirst cues, because dehydration can make you think you’re hungry when you really need a glass of water.

The other key to intuitive eating is moderation. You cannot live on only kale and brown rice. If you want ice cream, have a little. Eat your main course to satisfy your hunger and take in your nutrients, but don’t make anything off limits. There are no “bad” foods, but there are bad eating habits. Depriving yourself of everything rich is a set up for failure, because when you cave, you’ll feel guilty and can begin to view food as a punishment or a reward. Food is neither. Food is essential to your survival. It is also essential to your well being. Food is to be enjoyed, not eaten as quickly as possible to get back to the other more “important” tasks of your day.

Listen to your body. Treat yourself in moderation. Enjoy your meals. Enjoy your life.

How to be Body Positive in 7 Steps or Less

  1. Listen to your body. Eat when you’re hungry. Sleep when you’re exhausted. Take the time to breath when you feel overwhelmed. Respecting your body is key to feeling good about the vessel in which you live this life.
  2. Wear what you want. Don’t miss the opportunity to wear something that makes you smile because you’re feeling self-conscious. Fake it until you make it, and pretend you’re fabulously confident until you really are.
  3. Stop the judgement. Do you and let everyone else do them. We can’t help but have opinions on what other people are wearing, or how their make-up is done, or how their hair is cut or styled, but we can stop our opinions from creating negativity.
  4. Treat. Yo. Self. I’m a huge believer in treating yourself. You work hard, you’re a good friend/kid/significant other/co-worker/whatever and you deserve nice things. Get a fancy cup of coffee, go to the movies, or start a new book. Feeling good mentally is just as important as feeling good physically when learning to love your whole self.
  5. Don’t be afraid of doing things alone. Just get up and do what you want, don’t wait for a friend to answer the phone, or sit around waiting for someone to reach out to you first. Take your time browsing through the art exhibit, or the farmer’s market, or whatever you feel calling your name in the morning. The more time you spend with yourself, the more comfortable you become in your own skin.
  6. If you don’t feel like wearing make-up or shaving, don’t do it. No pressure (ya know, other than social norms). If you love wearing make-up and having smooth hairless skin, do it! You’re wonderful and powerful and unstoppable either way.
  7. Appreciate your body for what it can do, not just how it looks. The human body is incredible. Your body just fixes itself over and over again even though we may constantly abuse it by not sleeping enough, or not eating enough nourishing foods, or not hydrating enough, or not exercising enough.  You are capable of amazing things, because your body was built for amazing things.

 

Let’s talk masculinity 

Today I went to a used book store on the beach. When I finally made it to check out, wearing my #Feminist sweatshirt (from feministapparel.com) & my claddagh ring (from my grandmother), the lovely sales lady gave me a book featuring a collection of coming of age stories from young women in Ireland. What a gem, right?! 

So, anyway, as I’m having this really great day off, doing me, I keep seeing posts on social media in the wake of President Obama’s recent gun control speech. The common thread in most of the rhetoric I saw was that people REALLY love their constitutional right to bear arms, and also that crying is REALLY a girl thing. I would also like to point out that the only time I’ve heard about the constitution outside of history class is when people hide their hatred behind the first amendment, and when people have a really strong desire to wear a gun on their hip to Wal-Mart. I digress. Let’s get back to the point: traditional, rigid, masculinity standards make us question the authority and ability of the President of the United States – because he displayed emotion remembering when 1st graders and heroic teachers entered school one morning, with no idea that they would not return home in the evening because of a mass shooting. 

Boys don’t cry. Boys don’t play with dolls. Boys don’t apologize for their questions. Men aren’t constantly told to be quiet or not interrupt when a woman is speaking. Men don’t have to “cover up” as an outward display of their morality or purity. Men don’t get called “honey” in their place of work. Men don’t have to worry about the regulation of their bodies by the government. 

Masculinity is associated with power, leaving femininity to be associated with a lack of power. When men display “feminine” qualities…like getting emotional when talking about the senseless deaths of children…men are knocked down a couple of societal pegs. Because emotions have no place in positions of power. Remember that as you raise your son. 

Women are Already Strong

“Why was she walking so late at night by herself?”

“Didn’t she expect something terrible to happen?”

She can be struck by a car on the highway, and people still make that response.

Nothing regarding the driver, who cowardly fled the scene.

“She had no business being there.”

Didn’t her parents drill her from the moment of birth to not give anyone a reason to blame her for anything?

Teach her not to wear that dress, or to keep quiet when she wants to speak up, or to never leave a drink unattended, and certainly to not walk alone after dark.

I wonder what it must be like to grow up male. To not have constantly be on guard. To go to a party, walk through a parking lot, or sit in a professional meeting, and just feel comfortable that you won’t get attacked because of your gender. A gender that has constantly been associated with being weak. Women are already strong. We’re just taught to keep it a secret.

Well the secret’s out, and we’re tired of being blamed for the poor choices of others.

It’s not our fault.

xo

Body Shame & Other BS

Why do you hate your body?

Is it because your stomach isn’t flat?

Or because your thighs touch?

It could be your acne or stretch marks.

Maybe it’s the constant commentary on women’s bodies…

“You’re so thin, do you even eat?”

“You have such a pretty face, why don’t you just eat better & walk a little? You’d look awesome!”

“You’re built like a boy, don’t you wish you had some curves?”

“Ugh, everything looks awful on me today.” “Right, my skin looks so gross.”

Maybe it’s the media…

“Lose ten pounds in ten days – no workouts required!”

“Wear this belt for 4 hours, and lose inches off your waist!”

“Find plastic surgeons in your area and make your wishes come true!”

Maybe it’s because we’ve made fat the worst thing a woman can be.

Maybe it’s because loving yourself is so unusual that when you see a confident girl who’s fat, or has bad skin, or thick, dark body hair, that you don’t really know what to make of it.

Why doesn’t she fix it? Eat less, go to a dermatologist, get laser hair removal. It would be so much easier than learning to live with constant stares and judgments from strangers.

Because she loves herself.

And you should too.

xo

“In a world that profits off your insecurities, loving yourself is the greatest rebellion.”

#NoBodyShame is a campaign started by the Fat & Fabulous Whitney Way Thore of TLC reality fame.

What’s in a Name?

Happy Monday! It’s September 7th already & this month is flying! I did not blog yesterday because it was my first day off in nine days & I was really excited to do literally nothing. I did go to church for the first time since last Christmas so that was fun. And the music was beautiful. And prayers were offered for the under-employed AKA me.

Anyway, onto today’s topic – which is the name of your blog! My little slice of cyberspace is, obviously, called Another Apple Another Day. If you’ve read any of my posts ever or happened to encounter me in real life, you know I am low-key obsessed with a beautiful show called Next to Normal. The overarching theme of the show is that there’s always a little glimmer of light flickering on the horizon of a terrible, but temporary, situation. The opening song is called Just Another Day and showcases how we adopt to “new normals” when something goes wrong. I was thinking that I wanted my blog to be about wellness and staying positive in tough times, so “an apple a day” came to mind. Combining physical health with mental wellness brings you “Another Apple Another Day” or how to be happy you’re still breathing even when nothing else seems to be going your way.

Enjoy reading!

xo

Music gives a soul to the universe

It’s September 5th! Today’s challenge is to put our music on shuffle and list the first ten songs. If you’ve read my posts before you’re probably aware that almost all of my titles are taken from song lyrics. When they’re not taken from the “quotes” section of Pinterest. I’ve already written a “soundtrack to my life” post here.  Now, shuffle is on, and we shall begin.

  1. Cold Coffee. Ed Sheeran.
  2. The Guilty Ones. Spring Awakening OBC.
    Side-note, at this very moment in eight days, I will be in my seat for the Broadway revival of this show. AAAAAAAAAHHHHHH!
  3. The Girl Who Drove Away. Kerrigan & Lowdermilk, performed by Laura Osnes.
  4. Just Another Day. Next to Normal OBC.
    One of my all time favorite songs and shows.
  5. Super bass. Nicki Minaj.
    I love Nicki Minaj, and everything she stands for.
  6. My Only Wish This Year. Britney Spears.
    Christmas music flows through my veins year-round.
  7. You Belong with Me. Taylor Swift. #TBT
  8. Shut up and Dance. Walk the Moon. #basic
  9. A Quiet Night at Home. Bare: A Pop Opera, Studio Album.
  10. Safer. First Date Cast Recording.

xo