Body positivity is hard. We’re constantly surrounded by the latest and greatest fat-burning pills, the flat tummy teas from sponsored Instagram models, and the always passive-aggressive “you OK – you look tired” comments from co-workers.
Well f-ck all of that. If you tell yourself you love your body often enough you’ll eventually believe it. I swear. Look at yourself every day and tell yourself you’re beautiful and fabulous and worthy of everything you want out of your life. Believing it won’t happen overnight. BUT KEEP TRYING – IT IS SO WORTH IT. Literally, one day you’ll just wake up and it’ll click. You’ll get ready for work, or class, or whatever you’re doing that day and think YAS I AM A GODDESS. It’s freeing, and wonderful, and kind of weird. We’re expected to doubt ourselves. To compare ourselves to everyone based on whatever new arbitrary standard we create this week. To smile and bashfully deflect compliments.
Well, not anymore honey. Let’s start. Look in the mirror. What parts of your body get the least love? The “too dark” hairs above your lips? The touching thighs? The uneven skin tone? Think about what is actually wrong with any of that. Can’t come up with anything? You have officially arrived at Step 1. Step 2 is the f-ck it portion of the journey where you learn to reject unattainable ideals and start to set your own standards instead.
I’m not here to tell you that you have to be totally organic all the time to love yourself. You can highlight, contour, bleach, pluck, and exfoliate all you want. The key lies in knowing you’re not beautiful simply because you do those things, but because you’re body is where you exist. Where you dance, and cry, and live your purpose.
No amount of concealer, or botox, or crunches, or salads will make you accept whatever flaws you see in the mirror. Only confidence (and some body positive affirmations) can get you there.
Slay queens, ily all.